Do You Want To Cure Procrastination Problems?

The greatest thief of time is procrastination; it steals away the time you need for important things and in return gives you time that you don't really enjoy because you know you should be doing something else.

I am a procrastinator, and like most procrastinators, I had excuses, such as, "I work better under pressure."  Of course, I really did believe this for a while, but it simply isn't true.  Most of us work better when we have time to take time and do a job correctly - and that may mean time to redo.

I've left the excuses behind, but I still have to fight an almost daily battle against procrastination in many areas of my life (not work, thank goodness!).

Here are some coping strategies:

• If you procrastinate about cleaning, try to reduce clutter and clean as you go; never put dishes in the sink, they go straight to the dishwasher, clothes go straight into the hamper, or even into the washer, magazines go into the trash right after you've finished reading (or clipping, if you do that).

• If you procrastinate about bill-paying, do it online.  I used to dread those monthly sessions, opening bills packed full of advertising that filled a trash can, writing checks, addressing envelopes, and making sure I had stamps.  Save time and pay bills online by either going to each site individually and paying (my preferred method for credit card payments) and paying utilities online through your checking account.  The time saved is considerable, plus if you go paper-free, you save a mountain of trees in paper!

• Do you procrastinate at work?  Get a work buddy if possible and keep tabs on each other about finishing work.  If your work is solitary, look at what is interfering - do you spend too much time talking and visiting, flirting with the cute guy in Accounting, planning lunch, or doing personal business (or games) online? Either go in early and do work before others get there or stay to yourself. Plan tomorrow's lunch the afternoon before after you've done your tasks for the day. If you do personal business online, remember that with most companies or institutions, nothing that you do on your office computer is actually personal; it can all be traced.  If you have games on your computer, have them taken off!

Just changing one of these can get you started on a more disciplined path that can result in actually having more time to have fun!

Here Come the Holidays!

Do you use your sterling silver and silverplated flatware and decorative pieces for the holidays?  If they are tarnished and you are rushed for time,  try polishing your silver this easy way.

Line your kitchen sink with aluminum foil and add a scoop of Arm and Hammer clothes detergent.  Let the silver stay in this mixture for about 5 minutes.  When you take it out, wipe it, then rinse it and dry: you have newly polished silver!

Thinking Like a Psychoanalyst

Have family and/or friends come to you for help when they had a problem, when they felt depressed because of circumstances, when they had relationship troubles, or during other trying times? Remember that it is very easy to tell a person what we think he/she should do; it is another thing entirely to listen, really listen to the person's problems.  But that is what he wants:  a listener.  Sometimes he may ask for advice, but think to yourself, does this person really want advice? Can I give good advice?  Ask the last question of yourself carefully, over and over, before you spontaneously say what you think off the top of your head.  Very few of us give good advice for the person who needs it.  We may give advice that would work for ourselves in a similar situation, but we so seldom really think about the other person, his needs, goals, and priorities. Psychoanalysts probably help patients the most by listening to them, then letting them know that they are understood. And you can do that and be more helpful than you may know!

Rejoice

Tonight a full moon shines over the city where I live. It is a reminder of everything that is beautiful in this world.  Go outside, look at the moon, and rejoice that you are alive in this moment.

Remember...

To be nice to yourself; we all do things we wish that we hadn't and have regrets, but each regret that you have is replacing what could otherwise be a moment of happiness.  If you can say you're sorry, do so; if what you did can't be addressed by talking to someone, then let it go, and every time you think about the misdeed, say to yourself, "Let it go."  Remember something that you did well instead or concentrate on doing something good in the present.